India(North) Vs India (South)

As many of you did, I recently came across "An Open Letter to Delhi Boy" by Ms Shahana Nair Joshi. It was a brilliant, witty, stereotypical racist joke on a particular community, in this case Delhites( Punjabis to be More specific). I felt it was humourous and personally felt nothing offensive though i felt that the language was too harsh for a public outburst in a private domain, as in this case A BLOG.

Being from the South myself, i was in for a cultural shock when i visited Delhi for the first time. I can quite relate to what the author was saying pretty, much sums up my opinion about the same. Even i cud not understand as to 1.Why one should fall (prostrate)at the feet of anyone elderly 2. Why one should not eat Non Veg on Tuesday 3.Why People play loud music with Big Speakers 4. Why people pour coloured water on you inspite of you not being interested in Holi 5. Why every modern Girl is a Slut and Why every seedha girl was a behenji 6.Why one should not say TERI in front of parents but can greet "Oye Behenchod" for no apparent reason.7. Why eating with Hand was a crime 8.on why the language of south was Madrasi and all the southies madrasi
A host of other cultural shocks.

But personally i didn't feel offended by any of these things any time, i felt it was an oppurtunity to accept that other cultures also exist. All cultures are not like my own, there are different cultures out there each strikingly different from my own and having equal right to be present in this world. That didn't however stop me from sharing the occasional Racist Joke with my Telugu friends, ridiculing other cultures( a bit of racist in everyone). But i guess it is called racism if it is out in the open. My personal belief says, there are only two kinds of people in the world............1. People who are racist 2. People who dont show that they are racist

Having said that my disregard to a few cultural aspects of other cultures haven't stopped me from forging interesting( if not long lasting) friendships.

For ex: Digvijay Singh, with whom i have the Usual Delhi Bashing fight with.
Kaustubh Bijalwan, whose ethnicity, i dont know as yet
Suman BIHARI kumar, who spells Shah Rukh Khan as Saa Ruk Khan

These 3 are just to name a few, and we dont agree on many counts..........Digvijay ridicules my south film fascination just as i ridicule his DELHI roots

I dont agree on a lot of counts with a host of other people, but that doesnot stop me from making new aquaintainces(dont know if thats the right spelling).

i loathe Rajma Chawal, have no liking for sarson ka saag and the punjabi cuisine in general,cant stand babbu mann, make fun of the"Flaunt it" attitude

But iam willing to accept the fact that not many people like my(or other southies) 1.Film fixation 2. geeky nature 3.cold attitude 4.Lack of fun 5. coconut oil 6. dark skin 7. idli dosa 8. eating with hands 9. speaking an alien language etc

Just as i have every right to dislike and ridicule, i do accept the fact that even they do and probably even i wud had i been in their shoes.

So i believe that RACIST is there in everyone of us. It is nothing to be ashamed of. It's very natural to expect we are on the right track and everyone else is a fool. saying that "we are not racist" is a lol joke, everyone is a racist. But i guess it is called RACISM only if u want to enforce it,which probably u shudn't be doing.

There is reason as to why every culture is the way it is. The South being unaffected by any invasions, the people are much less aggressive in general and the north being invaded so many times needed valour and aggression to defend their identity . Factors like these have shaped a region's identity.

Yes, i do not accept , infact ridicule other cultures.......but iam willing to accept the fact that they have every right to exist just as any other. The racist never lies dormant you see

I think the best way forward for humanity is to either be united as ONE (Impossible) or to be divided into individuals(possible). If the society is fragmented into units as small as individuals we wud have far lesser problems than as groups.

The power of self centered thinking will help man progress much more than what group/community based thinking does.

I finally sign off by saying that stereotypes dont exist without a reason and the Girl's description of a typical DELHI BOY stereotype was to the T...........as perfect and accurate as other stereotyped descriptions i see of Bongus,Chinkis,Gultes,Mallus and Gujjus.

But the point is dont let it come in way of your everyday life..................Feel free to disagree but dont be foolish to speak out( like that girl and me)

P.S: I loved that girl's inhibhited care free nature. Good or Bad ,she spoke her mind. A quality lacking severely in today's women.Girl's please try to be like her because

Intelligence is the new SEXY

My first Love/Infactuation/Attraction story

Since most of you know,iam a serious advocator of LOVE IS BULL SHIT,HORSE SHIT campaign and that i openly/secretly critisize PDA(public display of affection)and make ROFL comments about LOL couples,it might be surprising to see that iam writing such a blogpost. This idea was given by my very good friend Ankit Srivatsava and Suman Kumar.Infact they told me to write my love story which might be the ROFLEST story you ever heard,bcoz it is not a love story,infact there is no love, but comedy ending in tragedy.........most people like my room mates and few juniors also know that LOL story and it is a matter of great ridicule.It is one thing iam not proud of but dont regret it as well.

So iam rather writing about some events that what normal people would call love but i prefer to call it imbalance of emotions,that temporarily relaxes the mind and givs relief and something which is a SWEET NOTHING.It is definitely not Love,i know it because iam not one of those fools who fall in love every time they see a beautiful girl or every time some one talks in a friendly manner.It is just what You call a DISTURBANCE.

as i write this it is becoming increasingly difficult for me to procede further because,i have always written about others,from my perspective..........when my own eyes have to keep an eye on myself and give their perspective,it is difficult.

I must be about 14 years old,just when the moustache starts appearing and you dont know whether to shave it or not.The time when You start to stare at movie posters a little longer than usual,to have a better view of what the heroine has to offer,when you hear weird stories from friends and try to make out from that How children are actually born.......a time which confuses all the while,but still enjoyable,the fun in being half knowledge,trying to understand various things,understanding them wrong etc.....It was all that time.

Anyway i wudnt give much details because that wud make it evident who she was,but the good thing is she is not in my fb list,orkut's frnd list etc.So i can be a bit more open.

Anyway when i first saw this girl,nothing happened,because i dont know what happened,just felt like seeing a bit longer but not like the heroine in movie poster.It was more like SEEING HIMALAYAS A BIT LONGER,nothing to do with lust,just pure appreciation of simplistic beauty without craving for enjoying it.It was like the famous dialogue from Telugu film TAJMAHAL CHOODATANIKE,VUNDATANIKI KAADU(taj mahal is for us just to see,not to live inside).I realised i was staring longer than the social protocol but no one noticed. I went to my seat and started appreciating her even more.

Now girls are of two types,who continue to be beautiful after they talk,who look ugly when they start talking.She was of the third type,rarely talked.The lessons of Indian History,Gas laws,poems in telugu never disturbed me because i was already disturbed.

I never noticed her talking EXTRA,or talking more than required.She spoke just how much was required,as if she measures each word before talking and sadly i never featured in requirements and thats mostly because i talk less than required with strangers.I appreciate myself for one thing,that in such disturbing times,it is easy to lose hold of one's own self and purpose.But i always was the Most organised one,finishing everything before time and being always/mostly first.I cherish that fact that i didnt lose grip on my life.It went on as before.

We are coming to the end of the post,because i dont have much to say.During the 6 months i saw her,all that ever happened was i was more dumbstruck than the previous day and the way she carried herself was very graceful.It commanded respect.I probably talked to her once and that conversation went for 6 secs

Describing her beauty is not my cup of tea.I read many blogposts which describe someone as river,snow,hair like the night sky etc etc etc..........but i never read completely because poetic descriptions bore me(unless i use them).To say in one word,she can be the model of cosmetic company with applying any of them.

And thats it..............the story of my WHATEVER YOU CALL IT................i saw many girls and i see everyday and Most of them with lust filled eyes,some of them with curiosity and very few with respectable appreciation.SHE WAS ONE OF THEM.

Suicide

Recently I came across the news that Some IIT-M undergraduate had committed suicide for the reason that his Project was incomplete and his degree would be extended for six months.He had left a facebook message for his friends saying something which meant 'I TRIED BUT LOST'.I feel sorry for his friends and family and may God give them strength.I dont know what feelings i have towards the guy because I dont empathise with him,at the same time i dont hate him because THE MIND sometimes does very strange things and for that split second it may lead you to do anything from MURDER to RAPE TO SUICIDE.If only he had thought for that extra fraction of a second.

That is not the crux of my blogpost.After the death of the student,many students,parents etc etc condemned the IIT education system for it being Super tough and stressful.Fair enough.Had it not been for his suicide,if he had got a great job or found out something great,the same strata of society would have been heaping praises about him and the IIT system,saying that it pushes students beyond their limits,and that is the reason for this boy's success only here it was beyond any limit.As i told you,if only for that extra split second.

So, is it really the IIT system that is responsible. But i see that happening in regional colleges.OK,so college is responsible.I see that happening in schools as well.Ok education is responsible.I see lovers committing suicide.Clearly there is no generalisation as for the reason.
But I see a parallel.Most committing suicides are Youth.

This is where i see suicides as a failure of society as a whole. The first in the line of firing are parents. I see parents who scold their children for getting a 95 in Maths and not a 100,and by scolding i mean real harsh.What that sort of scolding.bashing,repeatedly stressing does to a child/teenager is IT TENDS THEM TO BELIEVE THAT IT IS THE ULTIMATE GOAL AND THERE IS NOTHING BEYOND THAT IN LIFE.As in the above case it was JOB AFTER PASSOUT.

Every Dog who knows that Iam an IITian asks me HOW MUCH SALARY DO IITians get.Some people say to me You are an IITian. People will form queues infront of your house to offer their girls in marriage.Some people say DO IAS.You will get a lot in dowry.

All this might tend me to believe JOB IS ULTIMATE.YOU HAVE A JOB,YOU HAVE A LIFE.oTHERWISE YOU ARE A UNCARED,UNWANTED ENTITY.

all this stems from the attitude of people in exaggerating success beyond it's worth and dissecting failure beyond it's impact(read again,i think it has a lot of meaning).

On the flip side one may ask,it's the basic human nature and society can't and probably wont change that.People have to fight against the conditions than ask to change them.This is where i think the role of parents come in.Because PARENTS ARE NOT SOCIETY,PARENTS ARE YOU.So,it is the duty of parents to say to children LIFE IS NOT AS DIFFICULT AND SUCCEEDING IS NOT HALF AS IMPORTANT AS THE ABILITY TO FACE FAILURE.

Whether parents will change or society will change or will individuals change.............I DONT KNOW.

But i request everyone to think for that extra split second............

P.S if i start acting strangely,show me this blogpost.........because no mind is strong enough at all times to face it's own tricks