tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-89678145133848910492024-02-08T12:21:43.477-08:00my experiences of truth and lifeSri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-75624541799606526032012-12-26T00:58:00.000-08:002012-12-26T00:58:02.341-08:00RAPE - The pinnacle of moral degradation<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
India woke up on 17th Dec 2012 to a horrendous news. A girl was gang raped in a moving bus by a group of six beasts who later tortured her in ways that would put the entire humanity and even wild beasts to shame. I am extremely sad and depressed imagining what that woman would have gone through and is currently going through and I can't help in anyway except feel sad about it. Extreme Sympathies and hope her a speedy recovery physically and more importantly psychologically.<br />
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What surprised me was, the country woke up from its coma. People condemned the ghastly act on facebook, shared photos, called for castration as a punishment, complained about government, yet others like me wrote blogs and some students continued to organize protests as i write this article. In the coming paragraphs, i try to analyze each of them and the role of each in the larger scheme of things. Some things I heard were the following:<br />
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<b><u>1. It happens only in India</u></b><br />
People were very angry. Facebook was flooded with messages about the plight of women in India. They said India is the only country where such things are allowed to happen. I tried to verify the statistics(however skewed they may be).<br />
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USA, UK, South Africa, Ireland, Iceland, Denmark, Finland, The Carribean Islands and many such countries have much higher recorded evidences of Rape up to the tune of roughly 20 cases of Rape/1akh population.<br />
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The Corresponding figures in India are 1.8 cases/1 lakh population.(Reported). Even assuming that only 1 in 10 cases is reported and every case in the above mentioned countries is reported, the instances in India are not even half of the above mentioned countries.<br />
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I haven't given the statistics of African Countries which are far worse, but countries like USA,UK and the Scandinavian countries which are thought of as the most progressed of places have a far worse rate than India.<br />
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<b>Analysis:</b> Rape is not confined to India. Even countries which are perceived to have a high regard for women and their rights are no better of.<br />
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2. <b><u>It's the fault of the government</u></b><br />
I completely agree that the government would be at fault if the investigation is hampered or the legal proceedings and other technicalities are not adhered to.<br />
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But, I fail to understand how one can blame the government for the occurrence of such an incident. The best the government could do is have police patrolling the city in the night at select points. It obviously can't have a bodyguard for every woman. The point I am trying to make is that it is remotely inhumane to expect government to be responsible for everything that goes wrong.<br />
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Iam not saying that the government is never at fault, but when a neighbor rapes a woman, or a father repeatedly rapes his daughter over years, or a woman is drugged around the corner of a street, there is nothing much a government can do except to nab the culprits as fast as possible and punish them but again that is hardly any compensation to the victim.<br />
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3. "<b><u>Don't tell a daughter how to dress, tell a son how to behave"</u></b><br />
This is a point many people are stressing on these days. A very valid point. A point which cannot be argued against. I remember a statement of Dinesh Reddy, DGP ,Andhra Pradesh<br />
He said " Proacative dresses might be a reason for increase in incidence of rape".<br />
The media as usual blew it out of proportion. I personally felt the blowing up part was absolutely un-necessary. I felt nothing wrong about the DGP's statement<br />
How I would like to put the same thing is <b>"Tell your daughter to dress appropriately because not everyone tell their son to behave properly"</b><br />
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I know I would be receiving a lot of flak for this stance of mine. I am not denying a woman's right to dress and neither do I judge a woman or her character by a dress. And I am definitely not saying that dress is an invitation to rape. Even people in burkha might get raped. But the point Iam trying to make is inappropriate dress attracts inappropriate attention. There is no denying this fact. It is a natural human tendency. Most people know where to draw a line with that intention. People who don't draw the line are likely to attempt/commit rape.<br />
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Even at 22, my mother tells me to not wander the streets at night and return to room as early as possible. Now how do I look at this stance of my mother "She is trying to infringe on my freedom" or "She just wants to assure my safety". The answer is quite obvious. And when i see parents advise girls about " appropriate dressing", I see it much the same way. I dont think there is any difference between what my mother is saying or what a particular girls parents are saying.<br />
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How many times have our parents told, " Dont roam on streets with gold on the body". Reason: It attracts undue attention and makes you more prone to attack/robbery. Same is the case with dressing. I see no difference.<br />
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Its not about male/female. Its about safety. And each time it makes that much more sense to be safe than sorry.<br />
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There would be other days when I wont have any money and robberer might attack me and a fully clad women might be attacked, but that does not take away the fact that inappropriateness attracts undue attention. It is always advisable to be safe first and debate on what is right later.<br />
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<b><u>Death Penalty for Rapists</u></b><br />
I completely agree that Rapists deserve nothing less than death. However one has to look into the consequences of such a thing. A rapist might end up killing the victim so as to minimize the chance of being identified later.<br />
And going by the nature of crime, i am not sure but I think rape is seldom planned. It occurs due to momentary animal instincts of animal like humans, mostly in drunken state. In such a state, the rapist does not have a well functioning mind and is not sane enough. In such a state, i think a death penalty hardly acts as a deterrent.<br />
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I completely support death for rapists as a punishment, but i don't think the committer of the crime is sane enough for it to act as a deterrent. However, the safety of the victim stands as a question mark<br />
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<u><b>Alcohol and Intoxication</b></u><br />
I recently had the misfortune of witnessing how trippy people get when they get drunk. Though I have nothing against drinking as a habit, it is enormously obvious and undeniable fact that it reduces inhibhitions and evokes animal instincts in drunken people much more readily than sane ones. Significant percentage of rape cases are instances of either the victim or committer or both being intoxicated/drugged.<br />
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This brings us back to the point which I was discussing with a friend of mine. He said " No one should drink and women especially should never drink".<br />
I asked him, " Are n't you being a sexist?".<br />
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His reply got me thinking and agreeing to what he said<br />
" Sri Ram, A man is drunk and fell down on the road. Maximum that can happen to him is, he loses his money and gold on his body"<br />
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" The same thing happens to a woman and she is likely to be raped and the society we live in is not very sympathetic to allow a woman to live the same life as before the incident. We need not think ideally because the society isn't ideal. Ideally, the man and women should be equally vulnerable, but blame it on god or society, the fact is a woman is much more vulnerable and has got much more to lose".<br />
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There are have been many instances of a group of friends who drug a female friend and rape her. Whose mistake is it?<br />
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Definitely, it is the mistake of the friend group. But it is the victim who lost a lot. It was nowhere a fault of the victim, absolutely no fault from her side.<br />
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But the fact remains, if she were cautious it could have been avoided. I am not blaming her because she did not avoid it, but she could have.<br />
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So, what I want to say is, Intoxication awakens the animal in many and makes others more vulnerable. Be responsible with it and use caution even while with close friends( Both Male & Female)<br />
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<b><u>What needs to be done</u> ?</b><br />
As I said, government has very little power. The best we can do is exercise caution to the extent possible and hope nothing goes wrong.<br />
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The police are also to be blamed in some instances. Eve teasing is considered a petty crime by many of them and the complaints are not taken seriously. The police should treat instances of eve teasing as a major offence and look and verify the complaint and take appropriate action.<br />
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Secondly, the mindset of the society has to change. If we look at the abuses in various Indian Languages, almost every abuse has something to do with sister, mother or a woman's private parts. We hardly find an abuse relating to father or brother which itself shows what respect we have for women<br />
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To quote a few in Hindi MC,BC,TMKC,TMKB,TBKL.<br />
These are so popular that I don't need to expand their full forms and people can still recognize it.<br />
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How many times have we heard boys teasing other boys by saying " Ladki se haar gaya?? mar jaa saale"<br />It is quite common and so common that even I might have unconciously used it many times.<br />
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I am not saying, all such people commit rapes, but this imprints a feeling in all of us that women are weak and vulnerable and such an ideology at a young age is dangerous for a society.<br />
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Treat Your male and female children the same. Then the son will know how to treat his mother, wife, sister and the society in general.<br />
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On a slightly different note, we have seen instances of how strong female laws are misused in fake cases of domestic violence and dowry. So, even if the law is strong, proper verification have to be done into the claims, otherwise there is every chance of complete misuse of the law.<br />
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Finally, I, You and everyone can just hope....The social structures are so rigid that we can never be assured if anything will change at all.</div>
Sri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com14tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-58571772221230476952012-09-13T11:25:00.000-07:002012-09-13T11:26:02.216-07:00Extremely Random Post<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
As I write this line, I have no idea what I intend to write about. I almost messed up 2 off my exams today and have 4 in the next 2 days. But off all days I chose today to make a comeback to my blog. My life has been quite happy actually from since time immemorial. Since, I don't get excited and depressed for small things and I haven't done any big thing so far, it has looked good.<br />
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The exchange people have come and campus has become all the more colorful especially if you are from your Black and White days of engineering. As is the case with people with colonial hangover, fair skin always seems that much more beautiful<br />
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Today while I was at the Cafeteria, a small incident happened which I believe is worth pondering over( at least for myself).<br />
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While I was waiting to give my order, an exchange student who was standing ahead of me was thinking over her order. I just moved ahead and placed mine. She was visibly offended. I didn't understand why.<br />
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For me that didn't seem to be breaking any code of conduct whatsoever. It makes that much more sense to finish my work when you are holding up mine and are neither using it yourself.<br />
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I was like "Miss, think over your order while I place mine in the meanwhile"<br />
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However, after probably 15 seconds, I realized the cultural difference and thought probably(PROBABLY) it was wrong to do so in their culture.<br />
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Am I accepting my mistake???. Not at all. Culture thing aside, speaking purely in terms of making things simpler for everyone, I don't see anything wrong with What I did. However, I'am tolerant towards the fact that she was offended and I'am not offended by the fact that she was offended.<br />
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In the past few days, I have started to realize the importance of these HR Subjects. They seem so GLOBE anyway but do have a lot of truth and if implemented can be great to your social and professional interactions.<br />
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Shit aside, The proudest feat I achieved in 3 months at IIM Ahmedabad is that I saw 13 films in the past 10 weeks in theatres. The feeling of surprise i see in people's faces when I say so is worth losing a few grades for.<br />
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<b>THE GOOD OF IIM A</b><br />
1. God - Like teachers.<br />
2. Discipline: The discipline it inculcates is unimaginable. Me, just missing 1 class out of 171 classes so far is the sort of discipline this place brings about. Harsh but I am not complaining.<br />
3. Tremendous Learning experience especially the HR courses though iam screwing them up.<br />
4. Excellent minds around<br />
5. Bonding among dorm mates<br />
6. single room<br />
<b>THE BAD OF IIM A</b> <br />
1. No Cricket<br />
2. No Bakchodi sessions like in my undergraduate college<br />
3. No time for writing Blog<br />
<b>THE UGLY</b><br />
<b>1. </b>The constant desperation in everyone to so appear an Intellectual<br />
2.Placement and Internship focused approach<br />
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<b>What helped me here</b><br />
1. Minding my own business<br />
2. Doing things under discretion and not compulsion<br />
3. Talking only as much load as I can bear<br />
4. Not bothering too much about result and just chilling in general<br />
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<b>Areas where Improvement required</b><br />
1. Cleanlisness<br />
2. Talking and Interacting with very few people<br />
3. Spending too much time on FB<br />
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Thats it for now. Sorry for the Random post. Just wrote it to get back to the habit of writing and dusting off the cobwebs<br />
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will do much better work next time. Please do not forget to comment what u liked/disliked or any general comment<br />
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Sri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-32719667544143496932011-09-16T12:40:00.000-07:002011-09-16T13:35:43.857-07:00India(North) Vs India (South)As many of you did, I recently came across "An Open Letter to Delhi Boy" by Ms Shahana Nair Joshi. It was a brilliant, witty, stereotypical racist joke on a particular community, in this case Delhites( Punjabis to be More specific). I felt it was humourous and personally felt nothing offensive though i felt that the language was too harsh for a public outburst in a private domain, as in this case A BLOG.<br /><br />Being from the South myself, i was in for a cultural shock when i visited Delhi for the first time. I can quite relate to what the author was saying pretty, much sums up my opinion about the same. Even i cud not understand as to 1.Why one should fall (prostrate)at the feet of anyone elderly 2. Why one should not eat Non Veg on Tuesday 3.Why People play loud music with Big Speakers 4. Why people pour coloured water on you inspite of you not being interested in Holi 5. Why every modern Girl is a Slut and Why every seedha girl was a behenji 6.Why one should not say TERI in front of parents but can greet "Oye Behenchod" for no apparent reason.7. Why eating with Hand was a crime 8.on why the language of south was Madrasi and all the southies madrasi<br />A host of other cultural shocks.<br /><br />But personally i didn't feel offended by any of these things any time, i felt it was an oppurtunity to accept that other cultures also exist. All cultures are not like my own, there are different cultures out there each strikingly different from my own and having equal right to be present in this world. That didn't however stop me from sharing the occasional Racist Joke with my Telugu friends, ridiculing other cultures( a bit of racist in everyone). But i guess it is called racism if it is out in the open. My personal belief says, there are only two kinds of people in the world............1. People who are racist 2. People who dont show that they are racist<br /><br />Having said that my disregard to a few cultural aspects of other cultures haven't stopped me from forging interesting( if not long lasting) friendships.<br /><br />For ex: Digvijay Singh, with whom i have the Usual Delhi Bashing fight with.<br /> Kaustubh Bijalwan, whose ethnicity, i dont know as yet<br /> Suman BIHARI kumar, who spells Shah Rukh Khan as Saa Ruk Khan<br /><br />These 3 are just to name a few, and we dont agree on many counts..........Digvijay ridicules my south film fascination just as i ridicule his DELHI roots<br /><br />I dont agree on a lot of counts with a host of other people, but that doesnot stop me from making new aquaintainces(dont know if thats the right spelling).<br /><br />i loathe Rajma Chawal, have no liking for sarson ka saag and the punjabi cuisine in general,cant stand babbu mann, make fun of the"Flaunt it" attitude<br /><br />But iam willing to accept the fact that not many people like my(or other southies) 1.Film fixation 2. geeky nature 3.cold attitude 4.Lack of fun 5. coconut oil 6. dark skin 7. idli dosa 8. eating with hands 9. speaking an alien language etc<br /><br />Just as i have every right to dislike and ridicule, i do accept the fact that even they do and probably even i wud had i been in their shoes.<br /><br />So i believe that RACIST is there in everyone of us. It is nothing to be ashamed of. It's very natural to expect we are on the right track and everyone else is a fool. saying that "we are not racist" is a lol joke, everyone is a racist. But i guess it is called RACISM only if u want to enforce it,which probably u shudn't be doing.<br /><br />There is reason as to why every culture is the way it is. The South being unaffected by any invasions, the people are much less aggressive in general and the north being invaded so many times needed valour and aggression to defend their identity . Factors like these have shaped a region's identity.<br /><br />Yes, i do not accept , infact ridicule other cultures.......but iam willing to accept the fact that they have every right to exist just as any other. The racist never lies dormant you see<br /><br />I think the best way forward for humanity is to either be united as ONE (Impossible) or to be divided into individuals(possible). If the society is fragmented into units as small as individuals we wud have far lesser problems than as groups.<br /><br />The power of self centered thinking will help man progress much more than what group/community based thinking does.<br /><br />I finally sign off by saying that stereotypes dont exist without a reason and the Girl's description of a typical DELHI BOY stereotype was to the T...........as perfect and accurate as other stereotyped descriptions i see of Bongus,Chinkis,Gultes,Mallus and Gujjus.<br /><br />But the point is dont let it come in way of your everyday life..................Feel free to disagree but dont be foolish to speak out( like that girl and me)<br /><br />P.S: I loved that girl's inhibhited care free nature. Good or Bad ,she spoke her mind. A quality lacking severely in today's women.Girl's please try to be like her because<br /><br />Intelligence is the new SEXYSri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-660354254668139552011-06-17T22:27:00.000-07:002011-06-17T23:18:59.751-07:00My first Love/Infactuation/Attraction storySince most of you know,iam a serious advocator of LOVE IS BULL SHIT,HORSE SHIT campaign and that i openly/secretly critisize PDA(public display of affection)and make ROFL comments about LOL couples,it might be surprising to see that iam writing such a blogpost. This idea was given by my very good friend Ankit Srivatsava and Suman Kumar.Infact they told me to write my love story which might be the ROFLEST story you ever heard,bcoz it is not a love story,infact there is no love, but comedy ending in tragedy.........most people like my room mates and few juniors also know that LOL story and it is a matter of great ridicule.It is one thing iam not proud of but dont regret it as well.<br /><br />So iam rather writing about some events that what normal people would call love but i prefer to call it imbalance of emotions,that temporarily relaxes the mind and givs relief and something which is a SWEET NOTHING.It is definitely not Love,i know it because iam not one of those fools who fall in love every time they see a beautiful girl or every time some one talks in a friendly manner.It is just what You call a DISTURBANCE.<br /><br />as i write this it is becoming increasingly difficult for me to procede further because,i have always written about others,from my perspective..........when my own eyes have to keep an eye on myself and give their perspective,it is difficult.<br /><br />I must be about 14 years old,just when the moustache starts appearing and you dont know whether to shave it or not.The time when You start to stare at movie posters a little longer than usual,to have a better view of what the heroine has to offer,when you hear weird stories from friends and try to make out from that How children are actually born.......a time which confuses all the while,but still enjoyable,the fun in being half knowledge,trying to understand various things,understanding them wrong etc.....It was all that time.<br /><br />Anyway i wudnt give much details because that wud make it evident who she was,but the good thing is she is not in my fb list,orkut's frnd list etc.So i can be a bit more open.<br /><br />Anyway when i first saw this girl,nothing happened,because i dont know what happened,just felt like seeing a bit longer but not like the heroine in movie poster.It was more like SEEING HIMALAYAS A BIT LONGER,nothing to do with lust,just pure appreciation of simplistic beauty without craving for enjoying it.It was like the famous dialogue from Telugu film TAJMAHAL CHOODATANIKE,VUNDATANIKI KAADU(taj mahal is for us just to see,not to live inside).I realised i was staring longer than the social protocol but no one noticed. I went to my seat and started appreciating her even more.<br /><br />Now girls are of two types,who continue to be beautiful after they talk,who look ugly when they start talking.She was of the third type,rarely talked.The lessons of Indian History,Gas laws,poems in telugu never disturbed me because i was already disturbed.<br /><br />I never noticed her talking EXTRA,or talking more than required.She spoke just how much was required,as if she measures each word before talking and sadly i never featured in requirements and thats mostly because i talk less than required with strangers.I appreciate myself for one thing,that in such disturbing times,it is easy to lose hold of one's own self and purpose.But i always was the Most organised one,finishing everything before time and being always/mostly first.I cherish that fact that i didnt lose grip on my life.It went on as before.<br /><br />We are coming to the end of the post,because i dont have much to say.During the 6 months i saw her,all that ever happened was i was more dumbstruck than the previous day and the way she carried herself was very graceful.It commanded respect.I probably talked to her once and that conversation went for 6 secs <br /><br />Describing her beauty is not my cup of tea.I read many blogposts which describe someone as river,snow,hair like the night sky etc etc etc..........but i never read completely because poetic descriptions bore me(unless i use them).To say in one word,she can be the model of cosmetic company with applying any of them.<br /><br />And thats it..............the story of my WHATEVER YOU CALL IT................i saw many girls and i see everyday and Most of them with lust filled eyes,some of them with curiosity and very few with respectable appreciation.SHE WAS ONE OF THEM.Sri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-15469102677980771812011-05-07T12:25:00.000-07:002011-05-07T12:55:14.448-07:00SuicideRecently I came across the news that Some IIT-M undergraduate had committed suicide for the reason that his Project was incomplete and his degree would be extended for six months.He had left a facebook message for his friends saying something which meant 'I TRIED BUT LOST'.I feel sorry for his friends and family and may God give them strength.I dont know what feelings i have towards the guy because I dont empathise with him,at the same time i dont hate him because THE MIND sometimes does very strange things and for that split second it may lead you to do anything from MURDER to RAPE TO SUICIDE.If only he had thought for that extra fraction of a second.<br /><br />That is not the crux of my blogpost.After the death of the student,many students,parents etc etc condemned the IIT education system for it being Super tough and stressful.Fair enough.Had it not been for his suicide,if he had got a great job or found out something great,the same strata of society would have been heaping praises about him and the IIT system,saying that it pushes students beyond their limits,and that is the reason for this boy's success only here it was beyond any limit.As i told you,if only for that extra split second.<br /><br />So, is it really the IIT system that is responsible. But i see that happening in regional colleges.OK,so college is responsible.I see that happening in schools as well.Ok education is responsible.I see lovers committing suicide.Clearly there is no generalisation as for the reason.<br />But I see a parallel.Most committing suicides are Youth.<br /><br />This is where i see suicides as a failure of society as a whole. The first in the line of firing are parents. I see parents who scold their children for getting a 95 in Maths and not a 100,and by scolding i mean real harsh.What that sort of scolding.bashing,repeatedly stressing does to a child/teenager is IT TENDS THEM TO BELIEVE THAT IT IS THE ULTIMATE GOAL AND THERE IS NOTHING BEYOND THAT IN LIFE.As in the above case it was JOB AFTER PASSOUT.<br /><br />Every Dog who knows that Iam an IITian asks me HOW MUCH SALARY DO IITians get.Some people say to me You are an IITian. People will form queues infront of your house to offer their girls in marriage.Some people say DO IAS.You will get a lot in dowry.<br /><br />All this might tend me to believe JOB IS ULTIMATE.YOU HAVE A JOB,YOU HAVE A LIFE.oTHERWISE YOU ARE A UNCARED,UNWANTED ENTITY.<br /><br />all this stems from the attitude of people in exaggerating success beyond it's worth and dissecting failure beyond it's impact(read again,i think it has a lot of meaning).<br /><br />On the flip side one may ask,it's the basic human nature and society can't and probably wont change that.People have to fight against the conditions than ask to change them.This is where i think the role of parents come in.Because PARENTS ARE NOT SOCIETY,PARENTS ARE YOU.So,it is the duty of parents to say to children LIFE IS NOT AS DIFFICULT AND SUCCEEDING IS NOT HALF AS IMPORTANT AS THE ABILITY TO FACE FAILURE.<br /><br />Whether parents will change or society will change or will individuals change.............I DONT KNOW.<br /><br />But i request everyone to think for that extra split second............<br /><br />P.S if i start acting strangely,show me this blogpost.........because no mind is strong enough at all times to face it's own tricksSri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com8tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-81201283780228753502010-10-24T06:36:00.000-07:002010-10-24T07:45:29.225-07:00Saas-Bahu quarrels,Senior Junior ragging,Birthday partiesThe title seems to be strange at first sight with no apparent relation with any of the above 3 situations with each other,but the greatest philosopher alive(by default,thats me) has noticed a strange behaviour of the human psyche common with all these three events.Now let us start with what prompted me to start this topic.<br /><br />I have been met with many questions as to why iam against parties.This is an answer.<br /><br />Yesterday was one of those usual lazy saturdays that started of for me at 12 noon.Without brushing my teeth,i had my lunch,came back and then brushed my teeth and was watching some movie on laptop.Then one of my good friends said they were all going to chandigarh as he along with 10 others was throwing a party.....He and I both knew I was not going to come as I had taken a vow that I will not attend any parties and will not throw any parties to either celebrate success or overcome failure...... but still he asked me as a matter of convention .Many asked me the reason for that as to why i took that vow to which I gave no one a proper reason,but i will list all those reasons in the end.So as usual i dint go with them but went to chandigarh nevertheless eo watch RAKHT CHARITRA(after all Ramu's comeback film) and came back all by myself.Mind you its a very good film,do watch it.<br /><br />So i came back and started watching my film on the laptop.Ny the time the movie finished the party returned..............So now it was time for statistics.....as to how much was the bill at KFC,DOMINOS,etc etc................who paid how much.......so as far as statistics went<br />67 HEADS<br />30,000INR total expenditure<br />6500INR for movie tickets<br />23500INR for food,drinks etc.............<br /><br />so each party thrower had to pay 2900INR towards this event.Iam not going eo write here the reaction of the hosts as that would mean evasion of privacy and confidentiality but let me tell you my opinion on the whole episode<br /><br />Each head ate for 350INR and the worth of each ticket is 100INR............leaving the movie ticket thing aside<br /><br />each person ate for Rs350,So normalizing everything it implies each person ate an 8pc chicken bucket and for those who have not eaten it so far,let me tell you even the monster called Sreeram can't do it without stuffing his oesophagus.<br /><br />Why iam saying all this calculation is when i go out with people for dinner(each paying his own share),people hardly eat for more than rs 150 and assholes like me eat for 200rs max be it KFC or Hotel sahil or LILY's.<br /><br />So eating for Rs 350 implies either starvation or something else<br />Starvation is out of context,so i began searching for reasons.<br /><br />Then i came to the conclusion that the answer lies in the human psyche itself.Average party goers mentality<br />1.It is coming for free,so stuff as much as you can,once in a month oppurtunity<br />2.Iam not paying the money<br />3.Lets take the costliest one.<br />4.All these buggers ate like garangutans on my birthday,so lets load him as well<br /><br />Of all these i would like to highlight the last one,i think that aspect of human psyche is common to ragging and saas bahu sagas as well.<br /><br />We respected our seniors,we did all that was told, so our juniors should do the same<br />We respected our saas,we did all that was told, so our bahu should do the same<br /><br />humans feel it is their time to win from the other side of the game and this for me shows deep rooted sadism.So now the reasons i dont give parties is<br /><br />1.I value money, both mine as well as others.So i wont load anyone and i dont want anyone to load me.<br />2.Iam not so rich to throw parties worth 3000rs everytime.<br />3.I hate to entertain people whose main aim is to load just for the only reason that IT IS FREE.<br />4.People who think twice for drinking a coffee worth rs 5 in fuelzap,if they dont think once before drinking a coffee of rs 110 at some posh hi fi bakery,i see no reason why i shud pay that bill<br /><br />Note:Though the criticism does not refer to everyone,i stand by the general nature of criticism<br /><br />And iam not a person washed by milk(doodh se dhula)my character is even worse and i will write abt them in the next post<br /><br />Great person is not the one without shortcomings but the one who does not fear to accept them-sreeram(just felt like it)<br />ex-mahatma gandhiSri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-20334536035964873312010-10-11T23:50:00.000-07:002010-10-12T00:20:05.301-07:00Oh ji .......suniye..................Haan ji boliye...........my footJust a few days back,i was on my usual late night debating session with some of my friends. We generally take about a lot of shit right from food in the mess to common wealth games.Then someone started the topic of marriage(natural,for a gf starved lot),and after a whirlwind of things being discussed the topic came to the qualities expected in your wife.Since most of you know the people in our hostel,iam not revealing their names but this is what he had to say...........<br /><br />IITian 1: My wife should be beautiful,respect my parents and me(parivaar ka khyaal rakhna crap) and be a house wife.<br /><br />sreeam: Why housewife?<br /><br />IITian : I dont like women going around and working,it looks odd to me<br /><br />Sreeram:Why does it look odd to you?<br /><br />IITian:Dont know ,whenever i think of women i remeber kitchen,children,cooking....earning is for the men lot.<br /><br />He also added that he would not like it if his wife called him by his name..........he wanted his wife to refer to him as "oh ji............haan ji"etc kinda usual shit.<br /><br />Now lets go to IITIAN 2<br /><br />IITian 2: I would not mind if my wife is working.......but she should not be earning more than me because that will make me lose control over her........I want her to be under limits set by me and you can't do that when she earns more.And moreover i will lose respect in my community.<br /><br />Now there were lot of other comments put in by others,some like the above two,someone against it,some in between and so on.........<br /><br />But I want to highlight the following above two comments<br />Both are IITians,the best brains in the country.............But still they could not accept the fact that wife/women in general is no way inferior to them.<br /><br />Actually i wanted to highlight the gender bias but an doing this through the concept of Wife...........<br /><br />In India however forward we become economically,we still lag behind in our social stature...............Of course our epics and whatever was written even before 100s of years respected the woman but they typecasted and stereotyped the Indian woman,so anyone faltering from the path is termed SLUT or randi.<br /><br />A seedha saadha girl is termed innocent and backward and a modern girl with rebellious views is called A BITCH by this society.<br /><br />Our society has set boundaries for woman and anyone crossing that boundaries is an outcast<br /><br />Even in BEND IT LIKE BECKHAM parminder nagra(jasminder aka jess) while speaking to a photo of beckham questions...........Why is it that girls should return back home early for help and boys needn't,its so unfair<br /><br />some more dialogues from the same to highlight this issue<br /><br />"who would want a daughter in law who kicks football all day and can't make round chappatties"<br />I mean are woman entities being prepared for an exam called marriage or something....DONT THEY HAVE GOALS....ASPIRATIONS............LIKES...............DISLIKES<br /><br />Its high time we give woman their due and make them enjoy freedom as much as the boys do.the freedom should be in limits based on situation and not gender<br /><br />AND FOR GOD'S SAKE NO "HAAN JI BOLIYE" and "oh ji suniye" crap againSri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-9802831251683766362010-08-04T21:50:00.000-07:002010-08-04T21:52:38.571-07:00ADULT RATED-viewer discretion is recommended(18+)As soon as you read the above title most of you might have straightened your backs up.The topic is such that most of you are curious to know what is written further.Because there are some words in the country which are considered a taboo.No one is supposed to speak,read,write or show these things on a mass platform.But things like these have become a part of every adoloscent's life.For various reasons you might have already developed an impression on the author and some of your thoughts might be<br /><br />1.WHAT A CHEAP THING TO WRITE ABOUT.<br />2.AB TOH MAZAAAAA AAYEGA BHAI......!!!!!!!!!!.<br />3.Ohh I Havent watched it for over a week,thanks for reminding.Where is the hard disk beh**chod!!!!!!!!!!<br />4.OHH bhai,Yeh banda stud hai<br />5.Arey yeh ch**iya studdapa dikha raha hain.<br /><br />These might be most of your thoughts.And these are my answers to the following thoughts in the same order<br />1.IT IS THIS "CHEAP" THING YOU RELY ON FOR SATISFACTION.<br />2.I HOPE YOU WILL.<br />3.Ohh YEAH..you will definitely feel better watching it than reading this.GOOD CHOICE!!!<br />4.I ALREADY KNOW THIS.<br />5.WHY ELSE DO YOU THINK IAM WRITING A BLOG.<br />And i would like to make one more thing clear.This post is not intended to justify or testify ones habits.We are not making a judgement.Iam just presenting you facts as seen through my eyes and giving my views in my own way.<br />READER DISCRETION IS RECOMMENDED.<br /><br />Having given my answers and disclaimer let me start off.<br />The entire adoloscent period can be resolved into two stages<br />STAGE 1<br />The thing starts off somewhere in sixth class.(for me it did).It just happens that when you are changing channels on tv at 11 pm in the night,all of a sudden your hands refuse to go to the next channel because MIDNIGHT HOT is on.Now i need not describe what this MIDNIGHT HOT is.Because as per my peers i started late,most of them started it in 4th std itself.During this period we start to see girls in places other than the face.(DONT KNOW WHERE GIRLS SEE WHEN THEY SEE BOYS)<br />From FTV,we move on to HBO,AXN,STAR MOVIES,ZEE MGM(now zee studio) because they seem to show better things,especially right after the 9pm movie.Thus starts the nights where we have to study while our parents are asleep,we switch on the tv and watch the channels on mute with one finger on the mute to restart the sound when parents wake up for water and other button which goes back to the prev channel and all these things should be done simultaneously,like waiting for the door sound,clicking on the buttons simultaneously and all this should happen before 1/16th of a second because that is the time it would take for a human to establish what is happening.And most of the times we are successful and when parents ask WHY ARE YOU NOT STUDYING,we are ready with an answer JUST TRYING TO RELAX FOR 1/2 HR BEFORE STARTING TO STUDY AGAIN.This happens for the next 3-4 years.<br />STAGE 2<br />When you are in 9th or 10th std,a new gadget comes into most households.THE COMPUTER.Supposedly parents buy it so that his/her child has access to all the knowledge in the world.Friends come to home in large numbers with dvds or cds(in case you dont have internet connection) for COMBINED STUDIES.And the combined studies are done behind closed doors for obvious reasons,the reason said outside is DONT DISTURB,WE HAVE A TEST TOMORROW.Some people might even go to cinema halls far away from their homes to catch a glimpse of it on a large screen.This goes on for the next 2 years.<br /><br />PORNO STAGE<br />This stage starts from the middle of 12th class and may last for 2-3 years ending the adoloscent age once and for all.With gained profound knowledge of the computer and internet and its various benifits people resort to porn.More than the need of satisfaction the need for overcome of frustration in academics is the prime reason(especially in iitians).Once we entered iit the habit intensifies because the hostel is full of such people.And it is no longer sin and there is no fear of being caught.Exchange of MAAL is as common as exchange of iit material in 12th std.Normally there are two kinds of people in the hostel(not everyone but 98percent)<br />1.PEOPLE WHO WATCH PORN.<br />2.PEOPLE WHO ACT AS IF THEY DONT WATCH PORN.<br />After 6 months of starting there are no people of type 2 left,because either they are caught or they themselves get the courage to admit it openly.<br />No matter however SEEDHA a person may look 99 on 100 times he is a porn watcher<br />EVEN THE TOPPER,EVEN THE NERD,EVEN THE FOOLISH LOOKING,OILED HAIR,THICK SPECTACLED SHORT, THIN MAN IS SOMEONE WHO IS INFLUENCED OR ADDICTED BY IT.<br />It is during this stage a banana,a carrot and a raddish are seen in more ways than just as a vegetable.<br />The proof for my claim is non availability of a CERTAIN HARD DISK which had all the MAAL.The owner never had it with him as students always wanted it for obvious reasons.(Damn it ,i got it only once)<br />It is not that PORN watchers are bad people or bad in academics.There are brilliants ,geniuses who watch it everyday,there are great human beings who watch it everday.THIS LASTS UNTIL THE 3RD YEAR OR MAY BE 4TH AND ULTIMATELY PEOPLE GENERALLY LOSE INTEREST IN IT.<br />According to my friends even girls are avid porn watchers.They are as much addicted to it as men.Though i have no solid survey,or proof in this regd i heard many such stories but I wont comment on it.<br />I think PORN is the KAMASUTRA for todays generation(not that it is as scientific,but it enjoys as much stature).Like it or not it is today's generation's guide to sex and it has become such a rage that as per reports The porn industry is bigger than INDIAN FILM INDUSTRY.PORN TODAY IS WHAT KHAJURAHO WAS TO THE MEDIEVAL PERIOD.<br />DISCLAIMER: THIS POST DOES NOT INTEND TO DISCUSS THE MORALITY ISSUES REGARDING THE FOLLOWING SUBJECT,IT IS A CHOICE OF INDIVIDUAL PERCEPTION.IT IS MY REPRESENTATION OF PRESENT HAPPENINGS IN THE FOLLOWING CONTEXT.THIS POST NOWHERE INTENDS TO GLORIFY THE ABOVE MENTIONED ACTIVITIES.<br /><br />.Sri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-4926215629469773522010-07-28T07:07:00.000-07:002010-07-28T09:11:51.381-07:00No problem,NO KICKLife has been going on smoothly lately,and thats been my main problem.Because when everything is going on smoothly and there is no problem that in itself becomes the main problem.Now this is a state everyone has been through but cant define why exactly you are feeling so.The reason is NO KICK.The post came out because off late i saw the movie "KICK" 4 times in 1 day.Lets define KICK.<br /><br />Its very difficult to define KICK but closely it is the feeling when you achieve something unachievable or dangerous.Its the feeling when you pull off something unimaginable.<br /><br />If you have never experienced KICK in your life,let me describe you the feeling.Imagine a situation when you have to urgently attend nature's call.You realise that all bathrooms are occupied.As all of you know nature cant wait and so cant you.So you lose all hope and just then someone comes out of the bathroom.Imagine the feeling of satisfaction you feel as if you have won a war.KICK is a similar feeling though not same.<br /><br />Off late i have been playing a lot of cricket,sometimes even for 3 hours a day,but i realized i was not getting the pleasure i used to get when i played cricket during the time of majors.When i thought of the possible reasons,they were<br /><br />1.NOW I HAVE A LOT OF TIME IN HAND,PLAYING CRICKET WAS SOMETHING EASILY AVAILABLE.<br />2.when majors were in progress i had to earn free time by studying fast ,i had to earn the time which gave me immense satisfaction while playing cricket.<br />3.SINCE I WAS STRESSED OUT DURING MAJORS,CRICKET WORKED AS A STRESS BUSTER,NOW ITS MERELY AN EXERCISE.<br />4.(MOST IMPORTANT)ALL MY FRIENDS WERE STUDYING AND I WAS THE ONLY ONE PRACTISING CRICKET WHICH GAVE ME A LOT OF KICK<br /><br />if u observe all the above reasons one point is common.It is better to have a problem and solve it than having no problem at all.because the bottom line<br /><br />SOLVING A PROBLEM DOES NOT JUST GIVE YOU A SOLUTION,IT GIVES YOU A KICK.<br /><br />Let me take another example<br /><br />When an exam finishes,when i see the reaction of my friends,these are some of the reactions i notice<br /><br />1.TOPPERS(CG>9.00):Yeah,the exam is over,lets prepare for the next one<br />2.ABOVE AVG(CG>8.00):Oh,i got that one wrong,shit yaar<br />3.AVG AND BELOW AVG(CG<8.00):OHH BEHENCHOD!!! JO MAIN LAST 5 MIN MEIN PADHA WOH SEEDHA AA GAYA,POORA CHEP DIYA,MAST HUA,MAIN SOCH RAHA THA FAIL HOONGA,LEKIN PASS JAROOR HONGA,MAST HAI YAAR BEHENCHOD!!!!!!!<br /><br />It is very obvious that the last group experiences more KICK than anybody else.<br /><br />When i asked kaustubh aka costume WHY DONT YOU GET YOURSELF A GIRLFRIEND? He replied getting "A GIRLFRIEND" is not an issue and that is easily available.but getting yourself THE BEST GIRL is important as they are rare and even the ones who exist are not easily available.getting such girl as your girlfriend gives him the real KICK.<br /><br />SO THE POINT I WANT TO PUT FORWARD IS <br /><br />KICK LIES IN THE LIVES OF PEOPLE WHO COMPLICATE THEIR LIVES AND SOLVE IT THEMSELVES.<br /><br />may everyone be blessed with the best of KICK in their lives<br /><br />DISCLAIMER:1.THOUGH MY CG IS 8.42 I BELONG TO THE 3rd GROUP<br /> NOTE:ANY GIRL WHO THINKS SHE IS THE BEST CAN APPROACH KAUSTUBH AS I ASSURE YOU HE IS THE BEST AFTER MESri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-20871023360675496642010-05-27T21:38:00.000-07:002010-05-27T21:59:10.035-07:002000-2010RECENTLY I CALCULATED THE AMOUNT I SPENT DURING THE PAST SEMESTER.THAT COST INCLUDES ONLY MY ENTERTAINMENT AND REFRESHMENT EXPENSES LIKE HOTELS,CINEMAS ETC.I CALCULATED AND IT CAME OUT TO BE Rs 17000 IN 4 MONTHS.I SPENT ON AN AVERAGE 4K A MONTH.THATS THE AVERAGE PER CAPITA INCOME OF AN AVERAGE INDIAN.SO IAM SPENDING AN INDIAN'S LIVELIHOOD JUST FOR MY EXPENSES.THIS IS IN 2010.<br /><br />I STILL REMEMBER JUST ABOUT A DECADE AGO,I WOULD BEG MY MOTHER TO GIVE ME 1 RUPEE TO BUY bigfun,A KIND OF BUBBLEGUM.THAT WAS THE MAX I COULD EXPECT FROM MY MOM.WHEN SOMEONE CAME HOME AND GAVE A 50 RUPEES,I WUD THINK OF ALL THE WAYS OF SPENDING IT.SO 5O RUPEES WAS SOMETHING UNMANAGABLE TO ME.FROM NOT UNDERSTANDING HOW TO SPEND 50 RS TO TODAY WHERE EVEN 500 DOES NOT SEEM SUFFICIENT.AND THAT TOO IN A SPAN OF 10 YEARS.<br /><br />WHAT ALL HAVE CHANGED IN THE MEANTIME<br /><br />1.AGE<br />2.MATURITY<br />3.OUTSIDE WORLD<br /><br />THOUGH THE EFFECTS OF FIRST TWO CANT BE REMOVED WHAT IAM AFRAID OF IS THE OUTSIDE WORLD<br />IT IS CHANGING AT SUCH A RAPID PACE THAT 10 YEARS AGO I DINT EVEN KNOW THAT SUCH A THING CALLED PIZZA OR BURGER EXISTS.<br />THE BEST WE ATE FOR EVENING SNACKS IS DOSA OR MIRCHI.<br /><br />POPCORN WAS THE BEST WE COULD HOPE FOR IN TERMS OF MODERN FOOD ITEMS.<br /><br />TODAY THERE ARE ABOUT 15 PIZZA JOINTS IN NELLORE ONLY.<br /><br />I NEVER KNEW THERE WAS SUCH A CUISINE AS CONTINENTAL,THAI ETC ETC.THE WORLD HAS CHANGED IN A JIFFY.<br /><br />MY BIRTHDAY DRESS COSTED RS 600 GENERALLY.<br />NOW IAM NOT GETTING A 3/4TH WITH THE SAME AMOUNT.<br /><br />SO THE POINT IAM TRYING TO MAKE IS WE CANT STOP THE RAPID PACE OF CHANGE<br /><br />BUT WE CAN CERTAINLY LEARN TO NOT GET INFLUENCED TOO MUCH BY IT.<br /><br />THESE DAYS PARENTS GET THEIR CHILDREN EVERYTHING WITHOUT SAYING NO.MY BRO,MY COUSIN KEEP DEMANDING THINGS FROM PARENTS AND GET IT DONE.<br /><br />WHEN I ASK MY FATHER AND UNCLE THEY SAY IF WE CAN AFFORD THEN WHY NOT.<br /><br />BUT ARENT WE SPOON FEEDING THE KIDS.THEY GET EVERYTHING THEY WANT,SO INFUTURE IN THEIR PROFESSIONAL LIVES CAN THEY BEAR IF THEIR GOALS ARE NOT MET.<br /><br />WE SHOULD GIVE THE KIDS NOT ONLY HAPPINESS BUT ALSO A TASTE OF FAILURE,DESPAIR TO MAKE THEM WELL PREPARED FOR THE WORLD.<br /><br />GRACIOUS ACCEPTANCE OF DEFEAT CANT BE ACHIVED WITH THE MODERN UPBRINGING.THAT IS WHY I DONT APPROVE THE YO-YO GENERATION AND THE WAY THEY ARE BEING BROUGHT UP.<br /><br />BECAUSE IT IS NOT ABOUT HOW MANY GADGETS YOU HAVE,ITS ABOUT KNOWING WHETHER U REALLY NEED IT OR NEED IT BECAUSE THE NEIGHBOURING KID IS HAVING IT<br /><br />note:the post is arbitrarily written,so its not that good and whoever read it please comment because those who read it and dont comment are not acknowledging the author and giving him the due creditSri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-67917163848931417252010-04-17T23:11:00.000-07:002010-04-17T23:59:44.107-07:00RACIST VIEWS OF SREERAMI consider myself completely unracist,i judge people by the content of their head and not the colour of skin or place of birth.This is done purely on individual basis.But when one has to judge a group in particular like say Asians,americans,punjabis,bengalis you generally take into account the general tendencies of all the people,like taking xf(x)dx over the whole real axis and finding the mean tendencies(cant help it,too much probability this semester).So when that is done the views expressed might sound racial,but since that is not being done on an individual basis,i think it does not account to racism,but if u prefer to think so,yes Iam a racist.<br /><br />Now why did i want to write about this.The simple reason is i got frustrated with a few people over the past few months.When i tried to find out the common features they predominantly belonged to 2 sets of people.Since i have experienced the wrath of only these two sets so far let me discuss only these two groups.1.PUNJABIS<br /> 2.SOUTH INDIANS(predominantly from andhra pradesh)<br /><br />PUNJABIS:They are too honest and their over honesty and the lack of diplomacy is what irritates me the most.Personally i dont think this lot believes in what is called personal space and individual freedom.Like say if some person is my friend,he should do whatever i say since iam his friend.Its like people are taken for granted.Theres loud music until late in the night if your family member is getting married and thats why the whole town should not sleep,so forget sleeping the night your neighbour is getting married.They think with their heart and thats why they are very emotional and aggressive.If you dint ever have the chance of seeing a street fight in punjab,you have missed a great action sequence,the masala equivalent of this episode is higher than magadheera,pokiri and wanted put together.And i just dont get the point of using behen..od,madarch.d just for the sake of it.i mean they have lost their significance and are no longer treated as abuses but treated as a way of referral just like "hey sreeram come here"="behench.d idhar aaja".These abuses no longer insult you and the purpose of their creation is being destroyed.<br /><br />I consider this lot to be religiously very active(read fanatic) but that should be none of my business as its a personal option but what iam trying to say is if some person has died in vienna why do you stop trains in amritsar.(ya it happened recently).The richest person in nellore wont be celebrating his marriage half as grandly as a middle class person in punjab(spend thrifts) but thats again none of my business.<br /><br />But the people have an extreme honest attitude and i respect them for that.They are extremely hardworking lot and i see no way in which they can harm somebody.Atleast i think they are better than the next lot.<br /><br />SOUTH INDIANS:<br />Since i,myself am a south indian initially i could not notice the drawbacks of this lot,because you can only find the negatives if you are not one among them.If you asked my punjabi friends they will tell you what a big bore they can be.Firstly they are a big bore(does not include me because iam above trivial things like race ,caste ,religion and nationality)and i believe are not open to new ideas.they loathe adventure and are too self disciplined and even thats a show off.highly hippocritic and overly sincere and hate change.<br /><br />They live by rules or so they say,are too diplomatic to my liking.infact if two telugus meet for the first time,the question that would be lingering in their minds is "what is this fellows caste".If i go back home the questions most of my relatives would be asking is"are there any people from andhra pradesh(now that does not include telangana i guess)","do you get our food(rice ,sambhar,rasam,papad,avakaya(a kind of mango pickle)"<br /><br />Some would even go to the extent of asking is there any good looking girl from our caste(you might have understood why).i feel like ripping apart the brain of theirs.What did god make that with.They hang out in small,isolated groups and dont socialise with people from other sects.And if your professor is a southie forget about him being friendly,he would set the toughest exams and give the lowest grades and some of them would love to see their students fail(most of you might know whom i am referring to)<br /><br />though these are just stereotypes,they are true nevertheless,iam not saying everyone is like the same but iam saying its a mean tendency<br /><br />and please dont abuse me for this racial abuse of various sects.its just an opinion and for creating gentle humour.<br /><br />READER DISCRETION IS RECOMMENDEDSri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-51476543631022843822010-02-25T22:51:00.000-08:002010-02-25T23:30:41.658-08:00RAJNI KANTH-NOT A HUMAN BUT A PHENOMENONYeah,you heard it right,i dare anyone to say Rajni kanth is normal.His life is the type fairy tales are made of.If there is one person whose life proves that rags to riches stories indeed come true,it is RAJNI KANTH.<br /><br />RAJNI KANTH was born as shivaji rao gaekwad(his true name).he was a marathi born in bangalore.he was a carpenter who turned coolie turned bus conductor turned actor.<br /><br />Who would have thought that this bus conductor from bangalore who does not know tamil would rule the industry in the next decade.Who thought this dark looking average man would influence the politics of Tamil nadu.Who thought in 15 years time,the then PRIME MINISTER PV NARASIMHA RAO would request Rajni kanth to join the congress.Thats Rajni kanth for you.<br /><br />Currently the highest paid actor in ASIA after JACKIE CHAN, never dreamt of becoming an actor.in his own words he said"When i was a bus conductor i only had two wishes to be fulfiled.I wanted to buy a chetak vespa(a scooter) and have a packet of malboro always in my pocket.It is said passengers thronged into his bus just to have a glimpse of his style.the style with which he cut the ticket and gave change was the first taste of style from this man the public had.<br /><br />If you never had the chance of seeing a RAJNI KANTH movie on a first day you have misses one of the most celebrated melas in INDIA.i have seen it.The 60 feet long cut out is bathed in milk and whisky,fans cut their fingers and put tilak on the cutout.And the tickets sold in black sometimes goes to as high as thousand times the original prize.No other film dares to get released in the same month.It is said a rajni kanths flop film will collect more than the next best heros blockbuster.he is a rage.Directors cannot 'kill off' his character in the movie for fear that the theatre will be burnt down to prevent future runnings of the movie by his 'crazed' fans who consider him almost a god. He is said to "explode like a tiger on screen".<br /><br />There are fans who commit suicide when his film flops,there are some who cut their tongues if his film is a hit.<br /><br />Behind all the success he enjoys is a man deep in thought.He probably is the only actor in India who comes into public sans any make up.he is bald,he is dark skinned but never afraid to show his true self.In his own words he had inferiority complex of being dark skinned as a child.but now he says if iam ashamed of my true self,there is no point in living.He is a very spiritual person<br /><br />Once he had visited a temple in disguise of a beggar lest he would be mobbed.one woman mistook rajni for a beggar and gave him money which he took.when the woman realised after a few minutes he was rajni kanth,she went and apologised and asked him to give back the money as she dint want to insult him.Rajni replied"this is god's way of showing my true status in this world,iam a beggar.it is gods way of grounding me and making me humble.he said through this god said"you minus your glamour are a beggar"<br /><br />Rajni kanth gets the highest remuneration in india even more than the bollywood counterparts.RAJNI is restricted to the tamil and telugu industry predominantly which is about 1/3rd times of the bollywood viewers,but he commands 3 as much as them.<br /><br />But the point to be noticed his it is said most (almost 75 percent) goes into charity.He wears simple clothes,the watch he uses is the one he is been using from the past two decades and the car is the one he first bought.the clothes on his body wont cost more than a few hundred rupees.<br /><br />Many people say rajni kanths films are crap and his stunts defy laws of physics and joke about him.But i question people still enjoy those because he is RAJNI KANTH.its not about the stunts its about the person.if it was any other people wont accept it,but if it were rajni it must be true because rajni is no human.<br /><br />THATS RAJNI KANTH FOR YOU,NOT A HUMAN -HES A PHENOMENONSri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-76924390255381786502010-02-11T12:04:00.000-08:002010-02-11T12:07:12.926-08:00A BOY,HIS FRIEND AND FRIEND'S SISTERGoing by the title of this post,dont have any misconceptions that THE BOY refers to me.I just put the title as it sounded good.This post is dedicated to many of my friends especially roomates whose inputs have been frank and very useful.Now I want to discuss the age old question.IS TO WRONG TO HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH YOUR FRIENDS SISTER OR YOUR BROTHERS FRIEND.<br /><br />Just for fun when i asked my friends how they would feel if i had an affair with his sister the responses were varied.<br /><br />1.Jaan se maar doonga<br />2.Its a sin,how can u cheat your friend.<br />3.Depends on whom she is having an affair with,a jerk like you,no way,i wont allow this<br />4.Its ok,its her and your wish,we cant force anyone.<br /><br />All the persons i asked this question said even though they knew what they were doing is not right,when it comes to sister,they cant stand the thought of her having an affair.<br /><br />Here comes the big question.MOST OF MY FRIENDS EITHER HAVE A GIRLFRIEND OR ARE DESPERATE TO HAVE ONE.<br /><br />So isnt his girlfriend somebody else's sister.So why does this thing which appeared right and correct to them in their girlfriend's case not applicable when his sister is somebody else's girlfriend.<br /><br />Iam not acting like a saint.Even if I had a sister may be even i would have thought as my friends were.So what is it that comes in way of our thinking.<br /><br />Is it because of the way we treat our women in our culture.Is it because we think our sisters are incapable of taking their own decisions.Is it because we dont want somebody to do those things to our sister that we do to our girlfriend.(I dont have one,i meant others)<br /><br />I personally think its a mixture of all the above factors.It bites us when you come to know our sisters are somebody else's girlfriend.We want our sisters to be AMRITA RAO in VIVAAH,but want our girlfriends to be like KATRINA KAIF in RACE.<br /><br />Its a concern for members of the family that the girl should not do anything against family pride.They dont want a situation like neighbours discussing her life.And in a country like ours,with the type of culture we are accustommed to,neighbours love love affairs in others houses.Gives them a masala topic to chitchat,like an MMS SCANDAL keeps tv channels buzzing with excitement.<br /><br />So in INDIA,Where people take family pride and honous more important than family itself,this is exactly how it would be.<br /><br />please comment on this issue,i know everyone would have a thing or two to say.<br /><br />DISCLAIMER:In this post i have not hurt sentiments of anyone nor critisized anyone,i just said this exists in family of every person reading it,I and my family are no different,I was not trying to be judgemental.So if it hurt anyones sentiments in particular,please let me know personally.Sri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-37718668884428542662010-01-20T00:37:00.000-08:002010-01-20T01:43:15.702-08:00"SO CALLED INTELLECTUALS"The continuation for the previous post(lust part 2) will not be written because my co author and friend say it is too bold and raw and crude for people to perceieve(i had written it but later deleted it)So I apologize.here comes the new post.And this one is written in just a haste ,so it will neither have order nor humour nor grammar,so please bear with it<br /><br /><br />There is one great dialogue from a Rajni kanth movie 'BABA'.It is something like this"a wise man does not speak and a foolish man cannot be without speaking".I like this dialogue for primarily two reasons<br />1.It came from the mouth of RAJNI KANTH<br />2.It refers to the people i see around me in my everyday life and especially at IIT.<br />Because we(the so called intellectuals) come from IIT(the so called best college for engineering)people expect us to know everything.Recently when i went home for holidays the motor that draws water stopped working.<br /><br />Suddenly my mom called me and asked what subjects i had studied the previous semester.i started replying 1.DIGITAL ELECTRONICS 2.MATERIAL SCIENCE 3.ELECTROMACHINERY.<br /><br />Then she asked me to stop and asked what i studied in electromachinery.when she learnt that i had learnt about transformers and motors,she asked me if i could repair the motor.my first dialogue"what a joke",second dialogue"what the f..k",though the second was only in my mind and in my own language.<br /><br />When i replied that i cudnot,she said isnt a mechanic better than you then.<br /><br />I thought she had a point.<br /><br />A mechanic who never might have gone beyond 10th class,never dreamt of engineering knows better than anyone of us the working of a motor and he knows everything about it.And he is not going to forget it like we do after a semester ends.<br /><br />So isnt everything we are being taught and we have been learning nothing in comparision to what we call as "experience".So we the so called intellectuals are nothing when compared to people who have not even studied half as much as we do.<br /><br />Thats what i think is wrong in the system,its high time we realised education is beyond the walls of the classroom,should cross the boundaries of school and should come out from the confines of the text book.<br />ALL THE ABOVE WRITTEN THING IS IN RESPONSE TO PEOPLES PERCEPTION OF IITIANS.AND ALL THAT I WRITE BELOW IS IN RESPONSE TO MY PERCEPTION OF IITIANS(WHICH INCLUDES ME)<br /><br />note:the followingt subject matter contains references inappropriate to hypocrites<br />all views expressed below are the words of the author(that is me) and his friend(suman).the website takes no moral,financial responsibilities.<br /><br />Because this post refers to my friends i will use capital letters to refer them and not by name.<br /><br />Two days back i went into K's room.K was seeing a movie on his laptop(an english one).I also saw the film for about two minutes and realised that a girl was playing in a men's football match.I asked K why the girl was playing.He said she was dressed like a man and playing.I had no problem with the film or its storyline.The movie was SHE's THE MAN.But I had a problem with K.Because the same K told RAB NE BANA DI JODI was an illogical film and questioned as to why the heroine couldnot identify shah rukh after he has removed his moustache.I replied that it was a film and he indeed looked different which he refused to accept.So now i have a problem with K if RNBDJ appeared illogical how come you liked SHE's THE MAN.And with the extra assets the girl had it would be very easy to say she's a woman in the football attire of hers.<br /><br />This is just one instance.100 such incidents happen everday.<br /><br />The answer though untold by K(or any other) is very simple.It is written on their faces<br /><br />HOLLYWOOD DOES NOT AND WILL NOT MAKE MISTAKES.BOLLYWOOD DOES NOT AND WILL NOT MAKE GOOD FILMS.<br /><br />What I'm trying to say is people take pride in ridiculing their own habits and style and appreciating others as that would mean he was much higher than his own fellowmen.<br /><br />It makes themselves believe they are cool and intelligent.<br /><br />This is what i call 'I'm the STUD' syndrome.<br /><br />People act like pseudo intellectuals just to say to themselves"ALL IZZ WELL AND I'm ALSO A STUD"<br /><br />NOTE:Though the message i wanted to say is conveyed,the style of writing is in view of creating humour(if it created any) and i hope it wont be taken personally.<br /><br />IMPORTANT NOTE:K is a stud and an intellectual except for that one meetingSri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com10tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-49647861098557193692009-12-11T00:31:00.001-08:002009-12-11T04:23:12.901-08:00LOVE AND LUST(BOY AND GIRL CONTEXT)PART 1I have always been confused as to what love between a boy and girl meant.Like what actually is love.So is it like one of these abstract mathematical methods which can be realised only in theory and does not have any physical significance and can be just used an answer as to explain the unexplained.I dont know,but let me tell u how one orkut user defined it<br /><br />LOVE HAS BEEN CONCEIVED TO UNDERSTAND THE MEANING OF HATE BETTER.<br /><br />sounds funny but does make some sense to me.<br /><br />lets see how films,movies,novels,magazines define love as.<br /><br />LOVE IS LIKING SOMETHING OR SOMEONE UNCONDITIONALLY WITHOUT EXPECTING ANYTHING IN RETURN.<br /><br />I do agree with this definition partially.<br /><br />I WOULD STILL LIKE MY PARENTS AND FAMILY THE SAME WAY EVEN IF THEY WERE ANY DIFFERENT.<br /><br />I WILL ALWAYS LIKE RAHUL DRAVID EVEN IF HE GETS OUT FOR 0 HUNDRED CONSECUTIVE TIME.<br /><br />BUT AS FAR AS LOVE BETWEEN BOY AND GIRL IS CONCERNED DOES THIS DEFINITION HOLD.<br /><br />I THINK IT DOES NOT SATISFY THE DEFINITION(in most cases not every).<br /><br />this so called love is it unconditional.lets see a few cases.<br />1.IF IT IS WHY ARE THERE BAD BREAK UPS<br />2.IF ONE OF THEM STARTS DATING SOMEONE ELSE WUD U LOVE OTHER THE SAME WAY AS U HAD BEFORE<br />3.IF THE OTHER PERSON CANT GIVE U THE TYM U DEMAND WHY DOES THE LOVE STOP.<br />4.WHY DONT ALL LOVE LEAD TO MARRIAGES<br />5.WHY DOES LOVE FAIL<br /><br />1.HAVE U EVER SEEN TWO FRIENDS BREAKING UP<br />2.HAVE U EVER SEEN A MOTHER DISOWNING HER SON FOR REASON OF NOT BEING ABLE TO GIVE ENOUGH TIME.<br /><br />i have seen relationships failing for the mere fact of not buying an expensive gift for valentines day.<br /><br />i have seen relationships fail bcoz the guy/girl found someone more better looking.<br /><br />so this is my theory<br /><br />THERE ARE 3 OF LOVERS IN THIS WORLD.<br /><br />1.PEOPLE WHO LOVE<br />2.PEOPLE WHO THINK THEY LOVE<br />3.PEOPLE WHO LOVE THE FEELING OF BEING LOVED AND DONT ACTUALLY LOVE<br /><br />the first group is a minority,second grp does exist.<br /><br />the third group is the most common.<br /><br />the persons ego is satisfied if u know that someone likes u,u like the feeling that someone likes u.u want that feeling to stay and for that u like the someone(if ur lust towards that person is good enough).so u like the other so that the feeling stays with u<br /><br />this is the premise on which most love stories are built on these days.EGO SATISFACTION.<br />girlfriend/boyfriend have become symbols of social status,things to be flaunted,which increases ur worth in the society.<br /><br />it satisfies ur ego when u have a gf and others dont,it gives u a mental high and so u like the person responsible for this.<br /><br />JUST THIS-U FEED MY EGO AND I FEED URS ,SO THAT WE CAN HAVE OUR EGOS SATISFIED IN THE SOCIETY.<br /><br />all the views in this post are the thoughts of sreeram and refers to no person,culture,race,country or organisation in general.<br /><br />SUGGESTIONS TO IMPROVE THE STYLE OF WRITING OR COMMENTS ON THE CONTENT ARE MOST WELCOMESri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com9tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-53816597062507449902009-09-20T10:42:00.000-07:002009-09-20T11:14:01.566-07:00LIFE'S GOOD AND PEACEFULITS BEEN A LONG TYM SINCE I HAVE WRITTEN SOMETHING,THERE ARE 3 MAIN REASONS FOR IT<br /><br />1.IAM LAZY<br />2.IAM LAZY AND<br />3.IAM LAZY<br /><br />NOW I STARTED WRITING(OR TYPING RATHER)BECAUSE I HAVE NOTHING ELSE TO DO AND EVEN MY LAZINESS IS BECAME LAZY AND STOPPED WORKING MAKING ME ACTIVE ONCE AGAIN.<br /><br />WHEN IAM ACTIVE I DO 3 THINGS<br />1.SEE CRICKET<br />2.PLAY CRICKET<br />3.DISCUSS CRICKET<br /><br />THOUGH THE FIRST AND 3RD POINTS ARE CONTINUING IAM NOT PLAYING CRICKET BCOZ OF LACK OF FACILITIES AT OUR NEW CAMPUS<br /><br /><br />YEAH IAM NO MORE IN DELHI BUT IN ROPAR.<br /><br />ROPAR HAS NOTHING TO BOAST OF,IT DOES NOT HAVE THE MALLS LIKE DELHI,IT DOES NOT HAVE EVERY FRIDAY RELEASE LIKE HYDERABAD,YET ITS GOT SOMETHING WHICH NONE OF THE ABOVE TWO CONCRETE JUNGLES BOAST OF.<br /><br />PEACE .<br /><br />ITS A VERY LAZY PLACE WHERE THERE ARE NO TRAFFIC JAMS,NO POLLUTION,NO HOURS OF TRAVEL IF U WANT A QUICK BITE,NOTHING<br /><br />LOVELY PLACE.<br /><br />I HAVE BEEN IN METROS,TWO OF THEM HYDERABAD FOR 2 YEARS AND ONE IN DELHI.<br /><br />HYDERABAD IS BRILLIANT FOR 5 REASONS<br /><br />1.BIRIYANI<br />2.NOODLES<br />3.EVERY FRIDAY SOME MASALA TELUGU FILM RELEASES<br />4.PEOPLE ARE A BIT OPEN MINDED<br />5.MANY OF MY RELATIVES ARE DER<br /><br />NOW DELHI<br /><br />FRANKLY I LIKED NOTHING ABOUT THIS PLACE EXCEPT THAT HOT CHICKS ARE MUCH MORE COMMON THAN IN HYDERABAD BUT EVEN THAT IS DUE TO VARIOUS PETROLEUM PRODUCTS SPLASHED LIBERALLY ON FACES (that is how i call COSMETICS).<br /><br />I HATE DELHI FOR 7 REASONS<br /><br />1.THERE ARE VERY FEW SINGLE SCREENS AND TOO MANY MULTIPLEXES<br />2.THE POP CORN COSTS MUCH MORE THAN THE TICKET<br />3.TRAVELLING TO A MULTIPLEX TAKES AS MUCH TIME AS THE FILM ITSELF<br />4.NO BIRIYANI<br />5.EVERY FOOD ITEM SEEMS TO BE MADE OF EITHER ALOO OR PANEER AS IF ALL THE VEGETABLES HAVE BECOME EXTINCT<br />6.SOME PEOPLE ARE AND ACT LIKE PSEUDO INTELLECTUALS(NOT EVERYONE THOUGH)<br />7.NOT AS OPEN MINDED AS HYDERABAD<br /><br /><br />NOW COMING TO ROPAR<br /><br />ULTIMATE PLACE<br />TWO MOVIE HALLS WHICH MOSTLY SHOW B GRADE FILMS OF THE 90S<br /><br />EVEN MY FRIENDS HAVE THOUGHT OF GOING TO ONE BUT DROPPED THE IDEA IN VIEW OF THE MINORS<br /><br />FOOD -GOOD<br />CHICKEN-ULTIMATE,IF THERE IS ANYTHING WHICH CAN BOAST OF BEING AS GOOD AS HYDERABADI BIRIYANI,IT IS THE CHICKEN IN A DHABHA COOKED IN PUNJABI STYLE<br /><br />PEOPLE ARE SINCERE AND LOVING<br />NO SOUND OF TRUCKS,NO METRO PROJECTS BEING CONSTRUCTED,NO TRAFFIC SIGNAL MAKES THIS PLACE SEEM LIKE HEAVEN<br /><br />MOST IMPORTANT THING-GIRLS ARE BEAUTIFUL EVEN WITHOUT MAKE UP<br /><br />THAT EXPLAINS WHY THERE ARE MANY PUNJABI HEROINES IN SOUTH INDIAN MOVIES<br /><br />BEST OF ALL,ONLY 4 COURSES AND TWO OF THEM ARE EASY,SO LOW WORKLOAD,JUST 15 HRS OF CLASSES PER WEEK<br /><br />WAT ELSE DOES A STUDENT WANT TO BE HAPPY<br /><br />IF U HAVE NEVER BEEN IN A SMALL TOWN,U ARE MISSING SOME BLISSFUL MOMENTS<br /><br />THOUGH IAM NOT AESTHETIC BY ANY STANDARDS THIS PLACE IS IDEAL FOR A LAZY ASS LIKE ME<br /><br />THOUGH MANY OF MY PEERS LIKE DELHI MORE,I HAVE TAKEN A SPECIAL LIKING TYO THIS PLACE<br /><br />YES THERE ARE NO MALLS,NO COFFEE SHOPS,NO ,NO MC DONALDS<br /><br />BUT THAT IS WAT EXACTLY ROCKS ABOUT THIS PLACE FOR ME<br /><br />I WOULD ON ANY GIVEN DAY SEE A FILM AT A SINGLE SCREEN RATHER THAN A MULTIPLEX,DRINK TEA ON ROADSIDE THAN COFFEE AT BARISTA,HAVE KADAI CHICKEN WITH BUTTER ROTI THAN HAVE SOME RAW VEGETABLES IN BETWEEN TO CHUNKS OF BUN(THATS HOW I CALL A BURGER)<br /><br />THIS IS REAL INDIA FOR ME,THE TRUEST AND MOST HONEST FORM OF INDIA<br /><br />THE GLASS HOUSES,BIG STEEL BARS,THE 75RS COFFEE,THE 60RS POP CORN,THE 200 RS MOVIE TICKET,I THINK IS JUST AN ILLUSION WE CREATED FOR OURSELVES TO LOOK AND FEEL BETTER.TO SAY WE ARE LEADING A LAVISH LIFE STYLE.<br /><br />BUT DEEP IN OUR HEARTS I THINK WE DO(ATLEAST I DO)KNOW WHISTLING AT THE HEROINE OR CLAPPING AT THE PUNCH OF A HEROS DIALOGUE GIVES A VERY GREAT HIGH THAN SIT IN A MULTIPLEX AND EAT POP CORN<br /><br />SORRY IF I HURT ANYONES SENTIMENTS<br /><br />ALL THE VIEWS ARE COMPLETELY MY OWN AND THE WEBSITE OR ANYONE ELSE SHALL TAKE NO MORAL RESPONSIBILITY<br /><br />WAITING FOR UR COMMENTSSri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com12tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8967814513384891049.post-80870898152442199582009-05-10T22:33:00.000-07:002009-05-10T22:42:28.145-07:00THE KING IS BACKI HAVE GIVEN BLOGGING A BREAK GIVEN MY TIGHT SCHEDULE THIS SEMESTER.<br />5 THEORY COURSES,ADD TO THAT CHEMISTRY PRACTICALS,PLUS FRESHMAN SEMINARS MADE LIFE A HELL THIS SEMESTER.<br /><br />NOT THAT I HAVE WORKED HARD OR ANYTHING,BUT THE CONSTANT FEAR OF WORKLOAD NEVER LET ME ENJOY(THOUGH I HAVENOT WORKED HARD EITHER).<br />NOW COME HOLIDAYS,A BREATHE OF FRESH AIR.<br /><br />THEY ARE LIKE WATER IN DESERT,GIRLS AT IIT,VERY RARE BUT U ARE DESPERATE FOR THEM.<br />DUE TO VARIOUS REASONS WHICH ARE NOT WORTH MENTIONING,I CLEANED UP THE SITE AND AM STARTING AFRESH.HOPE U WUD LIKE IT<br />TRY TO READ MY BLOG ATLEAST ONCE A WEEK.EITHER WAYS MOST BOYS(ESPECIALLY PEOPLE OF MY HOSTEL) GO ONLINE AND WASTE THEIR TIME TRYING TO GET A SCRAP FROM THEIR EX CRUSH(OR EVEN THE PRESENT ONE).SO TRY WASTING TYM HERE INSTEAD.<br /><br />AND AS FOR GIRLS,WELL IAM A BIT OF PSYCHO IN MY VIEWS,SO I DONT EXPECT GIRLS TO READ MY BLOG,BUT IF SOMEONE IS EQUALLY MAD AT THE WORLD THEY ARE MOST WELCOME TO SHARE OPINIONS.<br />BYE FOR TODAYSri Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05633106562830317899noreply@blogger.com1