A BOY,HIS FRIEND AND FRIEND'S SISTER

Going by the title of this post,dont have any misconceptions that THE BOY refers to me.I just put the title as it sounded good.This post is dedicated to many of my friends especially roomates whose inputs have been frank and very useful.Now I want to discuss the age old question.IS TO WRONG TO HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH YOUR FRIENDS SISTER OR YOUR BROTHERS FRIEND.

Just for fun when i asked my friends how they would feel if i had an affair with his sister the responses were varied.

1.Jaan se maar doonga
2.Its a sin,how can u cheat your friend.
3.Depends on whom she is having an affair with,a jerk like you,no way,i wont allow this
4.Its ok,its her and your wish,we cant force anyone.

All the persons i asked this question said even though they knew what they were doing is not right,when it comes to sister,they cant stand the thought of her having an affair.

Here comes the big question.MOST OF MY FRIENDS EITHER HAVE A GIRLFRIEND OR ARE DESPERATE TO HAVE ONE.

So isnt his girlfriend somebody else's sister.So why does this thing which appeared right and correct to them in their girlfriend's case not applicable when his sister is somebody else's girlfriend.

Iam not acting like a saint.Even if I had a sister may be even i would have thought as my friends were.So what is it that comes in way of our thinking.

Is it because of the way we treat our women in our culture.Is it because we think our sisters are incapable of taking their own decisions.Is it because we dont want somebody to do those things to our sister that we do to our girlfriend.(I dont have one,i meant others)

I personally think its a mixture of all the above factors.It bites us when you come to know our sisters are somebody else's girlfriend.We want our sisters to be AMRITA RAO in VIVAAH,but want our girlfriends to be like KATRINA KAIF in RACE.

Its a concern for members of the family that the girl should not do anything against family pride.They dont want a situation like neighbours discussing her life.And in a country like ours,with the type of culture we are accustommed to,neighbours love love affairs in others houses.Gives them a masala topic to chitchat,like an MMS SCANDAL keeps tv channels buzzing with excitement.

So in INDIA,Where people take family pride and honous more important than family itself,this is exactly how it would be.

please comment on this issue,i know everyone would have a thing or two to say.

DISCLAIMER:In this post i have not hurt sentiments of anyone nor critisized anyone,i just said this exists in family of every person reading it,I and my family are no different,I was not trying to be judgemental.So if it hurt anyones sentiments in particular,please let me know personally.